Pillars of Motherhood-1. The Physical Pillar
Your physical health is the foundation of motherhood. By focusing on rest, nutrition, and movement, you create the strength and energy needed to thrive. Energy healing can support your body’s natural balance, giving you a fresh start in your wellness journey.
Overview
Do You Look in the Mirror and Wish Your Body Looked Different?
You’re not alone.
I don’t think I’ve met a single mom who loves every part of her body.
There’s always something; stretch marks, a soft belly, hips that feel too wide or too different from “before.”
And after babies, those changes can feel overwhelming.
It’s easy to feel like your body has betrayed you… or that you’ll never feel at home in it again.
But here’s the truth:
Your body isn’t broken.
You don’t need to “bounce back.”
You need to come home to your body, and learn how to love the version of you that exists right now.
Not once you’ve lost the weight.
Not after a mommy makeover.
Right now. As you are.
This kind of healing doesn’t have to take years.
The shift begins the moment you choose compassion over criticism, love over judgment.
That single choice can change everything.
The method I use is gentle, loving, and rooted in both mindset and energetic healing.
You’ll need to show up for yourself, but not in a punishing way.
This is about compassion. Connection. Confidence.
Say YES to feeling safe and accepted in your own skin.
Say YES to loving your real body; no filters, no shame, no waiting.
Words Matter—Because You Matter
Let’s talk self-talk.
One of the biggest shifts you can make on your healing journey as a mom isn’t external—it’s internal.
It’s time to stop speaking to yourself like an enemy.
No more calling yourself fat, stupid, ugly, or a mess.
Your words create your world. And when you tear yourself down (whether out loud or in your thoughts) your body, your heart, and your spirit start to believe it.
It becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Proverbs 18:7 says, “A fool’s mouth is his (or her) destruction, and his lips are the snare of his soul.”
Your tongue has the power of life or death—and that includes the words you speak to yourself.
Here’s Where the Work Begins:
Start noticing your self-talk.
Every time you catch a negative thought or harsh judgment about yourself, flip the script.
Before:
“My hair is disgusting.”
After:
“I’m grateful to have this hair. It’s strong, and it’s mine.”
At first, affirmations might feel awkward or fake. That’s okay.
You’ve been rehearsing negativity for a long time—it’s what your mind knows. But just like any habit, it can be unlearned.
With time and consistency, positive self-talk will begin to feel natural.
You’ll notice your posture shift, your energy lift, and your confidence rise; not because you’ve changed who you are, but because you’ve finally stopped fighting yourself.
And if this feels hard…
If going from self-hate to self-love feels too far to stretch, I’ve got you.
Check out my blog post on bridging affirmations—a gentle, realistic way to move from criticism to compassion, one thought at a time.
As you are beginning to change your self talk start to incorporate mirror work into your daily routine.
Mirror Work: A Simple Daily Ritual for Self-Love
Mirror work is a powerful and gentle way to begin healing your relationship with your body.
It’s simple, quick, and can easily become part of your morning routine. All you need is you, a mirror, and a few moments of positive self-talk.
Here’s how to begin:
Step 1: Start with Something You Already Like
Choose one feature you feel good about, it could be your eyes, your smile, your hands.
Look yourself in the eyes in the mirror and speak directly to that part with gratitude and kindness.
Example:
“Thank you, eyes. I love how you help me see my children’s faces, the colors of nature, and the beauty in small everyday things. You help me read, learn, and connect with the world around me.”
You don’t need to go on and on, just speak a few sincere statements from the heart. Then you’re done for the day. Starting with a body part you like helps you anchor this self-talk in love, making it feel more natural and genuine. This helps you when you move onto the body parts that you are finding hard to accept because you have already started building your self-love image.
Step 2: Add Variety Over Time
Each day (or whenever you do this), choose a different feature.
Repeat the same pattern: look at it, speak love and appreciation, and move on.
This helps build a habit of seeing yourself through a more compassionate lens.
Step 3: Gently Move Toward the Parts You Struggle With
As you grow more comfortable, begin offering love to the parts you’ve felt shame or discomfort around—your stomach, thighs, arms, feet, etc.
You may want a full-length mirror for this step, so you can look at the part as you speak to it with tenderness.
You might say:
“Thank you, legs. You’ve carried me through so much. You’re strong, supportive, and I’m grateful for all you do—even if I don’t always say it.”
This step might feel awkward at first, but stay with it. Speak even if you don’t fully believe it—yet.
Step 4: Let the Practice Expand Naturally
With consistency, mirror work becomes easier—and more powerful.
You’ll notice the self-criticism fading.
You’ll find yourself offering kind thoughts to your body throughout the day, even outside the mirror.
And over time, something beautiful happens:
You’ll stop just tolerating your body, and start truly loving every part of it—because you’ve built a relationship with it, one kind word at a time.
I think you will be surprised with how fast this becomes natural and how fast you start to look at your body differently. It is even better when coupled with prayer and thanking your creator for the wonderful body you have the the wonderful functions it performs.
If you want a Christian point of view check out my blog post, “You Are Created in God’s Image.”
Why a Daily Self-Care Routine Is Non-Negotiable (Yes, Even for You, Mama)
Let’s be honest—when most moms hear the phrase "self-care," we picture massages, spa days, mani-pedis, or long, uninterrupted getaways. And while those things are lovely (and well-deserved), self-care doesn’t need to be grand, expensive, or time-consuming.
In fact, the most powerful self-care routines are the simple, consistent ones.
What Is Self-Care Really?
Self-care is any intentional moment where you slow down, check in with yourself, and give your body, mind, or spirit what it needs.
It doesn’t have to take an hour.
It doesn’t need to cost a thing.
And no—you don’t have to wait until the kids are grown or the laundry is done.
Consistency Over Size
One mama I met completely changed the way I thought about self-care. She didn’t block out huge chunks of her day. Instead, she carved out three mini moments:
Morning reset
Midday breather
Afternoon/evening recharge (aka the witching hour survival plan!)
Sometimes it was five minutes. Sometimes a whole hour. But those moments were hers. Every single day.
One of Her Favorite Examples?
She bought a stash of really good chocolate, hid it in her closet, and when she needed a break, she’d tell her kids, “Mama needs a few minutes to herself.”
She’d go into her room, close her eyes, and slowly savor that piece of chocolate. Not scroll. Not multitask. Just be—fully present with that delicious little ritual.
She told me it completely reset her mindset and gave her just enough of a pause to carry on with clarity, calm, and kindness.
Other Everyday Self-Care Ideas:
A short walk around the block (fresh air = fresh perspective)
Breathing exercises or mindful pauses (I'll share one in my newsletter lots of tips and tricks so don’t forget to sign-up)
Quiet prayer or meditation
Stretching or grounding your feet to the earth. Just stand out in the grass in your bare feet and breath.
A power nap during kids’ quiet time (quiet time for everyone is an absolute necessity)*
Reading one chapter of a book just for you
Sitting in silence with your hand over your heart, just being
The Truth?
You are worth five minutes of stillness.
You are worth a moment of peace.
You are worth being cared for: by you.
Self-care doesn’t need to be big.
It just needs to be intentional.
So today, ask yourself:
“What do I need right now?”
Then give yourself just one small thing.
You’ll be amazed how those little acts of love ripple through the rest of your day.
* I want to do a quick follow-up to the quiet time. I started implementing this after our last move. That move was challenging and we had very little help with our young kids. Our oldest was 10 at the time so they were really young still and it was a big move. I started an hour of quiet time every afternoon. Every person needed to be in their own spot, doing something quiet whether it was reading, puzzles, blocks, napping. No one was allowed to interrupt each other and it needed to be a screen free zone. I set a timer and once the timer went off we went about our lives but the quiet and stillness that was instilled during that time was priceless. It allowed everyone to reset, refocus and just calm down the senses. It was amazing. Now that they are older there have been days when overstimulation happens and I enforce the quiet time hour. It really is a wonderful tool that has helped our family tremendously!
Exercise
I said it; the capital E word. Eek!
I’ve talked to a lot of moms who don’t make exercise a priority, and believe me, I’ve heard every excuse in the book:
“I’m just too busy.”
“I’m so tired, I can’t even think about it.”
“Exercise isn’t fun.”
“I hate sweating.” (pst, you can find workouts that really work without sweating, I know! It is kind of shocking!)
If that’s you, I see you, and I get it. But if you’re a mama who already has a consistent routine, I’m so proud of you. Keep going, and keep showing up for yourself.
I’m not here to lecture you about brain chemistry or the science behind movement. We’ve all heard that since we were kids. What I am here to tell you is this: it matters. And it’s time to make it a priority.
But don’t let that overwhelm you. Let’s start small. Really small.
You don’t need to dive headfirst into a grueling HIIT class or commit to a rigid schedule that leaves you burnt out after day two. The first step is to look at your current rhythm—your daily and weekly routine—and ask:
Where can I fit in 10–30 minutes of intentional movement?
Morning? Lunch break? After the kids’ bedtime? There's no "perfect" time, just a time that works for you and your flow. Read the book ‘Atomic Habits’ to help you figure out your routine.
Next, explore what type of movement you’d enjoy. Try a brisk walk, beginner yoga, Pilates, barre, or a walk-jog combo. There are countless strength-building workouts that require minimal time and equipment. You might need to test a few options to discover what feels good for your body and your season of life.
Personally? I love barre, Pilates, yoga, and long walks. I’m not a gym person. It just doesn’t suit my energy. I use a BODi subscription, and when the world shut down a few years ago, I invested in a treadmill that I still use almost daily. That works for me—and you’ll find what works for you, too.
No matter where you’re at in motherhood, your example speaks volumes. When your kids see you prioritize movement, it becomes normal to them. Sometimes my kids join me for a quick workout or ask to go on a walk or bike ride. It’s good for all of us—body, mind, spirit and connection.
So don’t overthink it. Don’t wait for perfect.
Just start.
You’ll feel the difference before you know it.
Nutrition
Let’s talk about food, not diet culture, not shame, not counting every calorie.
Let’s talk about how you nourish your body.
Because here’s the thing: your body does a lot for you. It deserves food that fuels, supports, and honors the work it does every single day. You deserve that kind of care.
Now, before you get overwhelmed, this isn’t about a complete overhaul. We’re not tossing everything in your pantry or jumping on a new food trend. This is about taking small, meaningful steps to create a relationship with food that feels good and supports your energy, your mood, and your goals.
So let’s start with one question:
How does the food you're eating make you feel?
If you often feel sluggish, foggy, bloated, or low-energy, your body might be telling you something. Pay attention to those signals. Try adding more whole foods—fruits, veggies, lean proteins, healthy fats—and notice what shifts.
And remember: you don’t have to eat perfectly to eat better.
Try keeping a few nutritious options on hand for the busy moments:
Pre-cut veggies and hummus
When you get home from the grocery store take a few minutes to cut up the celery, carrots, bell peppers, and prepare the fruit for easy grab and go snacks.
Another trick is to look for the mark downs on the hummus options. I never pay full price for hummus!
Simple protein smoothies
I never pay full price for protein powder. Watch for the sales.
Buy your berries when they are on sale and freeze them.
Boiled eggs, overnight oats, or prepped salad jars
A hearty soup or stir-fry you can make once and eat twice
Find a food blog you love and follow it.
Find what works for you and your family. Feeding your body doesn’t have to be complicated, it just has to be intentional.
I personally aim for balanced, realistic meals. I make space for treats without guilt. I drink a ton of water, and I try to listen when my body says, “Hey, I need something green.” I still enjoy chocolate and homemade cookies with my kids, and I do it with joy.
If you're feeling stuck, start small. Maybe just focus on getting more water (easy place to start and if you hate water figure out how to make it more interesting with lemons, berries, cucumbers), or adding a veggie to your plate once a day. Little shifts add up, and the goal isn't perfection—it’s progress.
Your body needs nourishment. Not punishment. Not restriction. Just love and care.
So go ahead: feed yourself well.
Because you're worth it.
An energy healing session really helps get your in the right frame of mind. It helps provide motivation that you literally are giving yourself. The energy session also clears blocks that you may have formed against food. It can also connect you to where you can find the right help if you are completely clueless about this step. I think you will be amazed at what an energy healing session can unfold for you and your food relationship.
Hormone Health: Finding Your Balance Again
Let’s talk about something most moms don’t talk about enough—hormones.
If you’ve ever felt like your body is working against you; whether it’s brain fog, sudden irritability, exhaustion that sleep doesn’t fix, or unexpected weight changes—it might be your hormones waving a white flag. The truth is, from pregnancy to postpartum to perimenopause, a woman’s hormones are in constant transition.
Here’s the good news: there are simple, supportive ways to help bring balance back to your system.
1. Eat for Hormone Health
What you eat impacts your hormone function more than you might think. Here are a few gentle shifts that can support balance:
Healthy fats like avocado, olive oil, seeds, and nuts are the building blocks of hormone production.
Cruciferous vegetables (broccoli, Brussels sprouts, kale) help your liver detox excess estrogen.
Protein at every meal helps stabilize blood sugar—and blood sugar balance is key for steady hormones.
Cutting back on sugar and refined carbs can reduce insulin spikes, which influence estrogen and cortisol levels.
💡 Pro Tip: Don't skip meals or live off caffeine. Skipping meals can throw your adrenals and thyroid off even more.
2. Support Your Stress Response
Chronic stress floods your body with cortisol, which can wreak havoc on other hormones—especially progesterone, adrenal, and thyroid hormones.
Try weaving in calming practices like:
Deep breathing or meditation (even 5 minutes helps)
Gentle movement (walks, stretching, restorative yoga)
Saying “no” to overcommitting
Listen to yourself before you say yes to anything. Your intuition will guide you to what is for your highest good and what will deplete you.
Prioritizing joyful connection with others
When stress goes down, your hormones can stabilize.
3. Consider Cycle Awareness
If your period feels unpredictable, painful, heavy, long or totally missing, it might be time to track your cycle and learn its patterns. Knowing when you're in each phase (follicular, ovulation, luteal, menstruation) can help you sync activities and nutrition to support what your body needs at each stage.
Apps like Flo, MyFlo, or Clue make this super easy.
4. When to Seek Help
If you're experiencing symptoms like:
Extreme fatigue
Mood swings or anxiety that interfere with daily life
I become what I coined “Dragon Mama.” I knew I was being a dragon but I had a very hard time controlling it. It was frustrating and such a roller coaster of emotions.
Irregular or painful periods
Hair thinning or weight gain that doesn’t respond to lifestyle changes
…consider seeing a functional medicine doctor, hormone specialist, or OB/GYN who can run comprehensive panels (like thyroid, estrogen, progesterone, and cortisol). I will say the naturopath way seems to be the way to go when trying to figure this out. Their blood panels are completely different than your traditional doctors. This is just my personal opinion.
You do not have to live with these symptoms. They’re common, but not normal, and you deserve to feel good in your body.
❤️ Mama, your hormones are not the enemy. They are messengers trying to tell you something. Listen in, love on your body a little more intentionally, and be open to learning what balance looks like in this season
Rest + Sleep: Your Permission Slip to Pause
Mama, I know rest looks different in every season of motherhood. Maybe you’re up nursing a baby, waiting up for a teen, or squeezing in quiet time before the day begins. No matter the stage, your body and mind need moments to truly unwind.
Prioritize quality sleep whenever you can. Yes, even if it means saying no to something else. This includes doom scrolling, late night television and anything else that keeps you from getting your precious hours of sleep. I know it is easier said then done, especially when you really want a brain reset. It does take some choices being made and some routine restructuring. Sleep restores your body, calms your nervous system, and helps your hormones and emotions stay balanced.
True rest doesn’t just mean sleep. It’s also the little pauses that refill your cup—deep breaths, stillness, time to just be and no screens!
You don’t have to earn rest—it’s how you stay grounded, healthy, and whole.
How Energy Healing Supports the Physical Pillar
You might be wondering, “How can energy healing really help me with the physical part of my life?”
The answer: in more ways than you might expect. Not only can it support your physical wellness, but it can also help clear the emotional and energetic blocks that keep you from making lasting change.
Let me share a powerful example:
I once worked with a woman who had struggled with her weight for years. She had tried countless programs, but always found herself returning to the comfort of food. As we began our session, we uncovered deep-rooted family beliefs and emotional patterns tied to her weight. She had internalized negative messages since childhood—using weight as a form of “padding” to protect herself from harsh words and painful experiences.
During our work together, I located where this emotional weight was stored in her energy system and helped her release it. We created a personalized, manageable plan that aligned with what her energy was ready for—not something overwhelming, but empowering. Step by step, she started making progress. Over time, the weight came off—and she told me, “I’ve never felt this good in my entire life. I feel free!”
That kind of transformation is possible for you too.
Energy healing gives you a fresh start. It clears the clutter—physically, emotionally, and energetically—so you can move forward with more confidence and clarity. You’ll begin to see the big picture, and more importantly, believe that change is possible.
It’s a gentle, empowering journey—and it just might be the missing piece in becoming your healthiest, most aligned self.
Ready to take the next step?
If you’re feeling stuck or unsure where to begin, let your energy guide the way. Your energy is so smart and knows exactly what you need. I can help you bring that to light. Schedule a session with me and let’s uncover what’s holding you back—physically, emotionally, or energetically. Your healthiest, most vibrant self is already within you… let’s help her rise. Let’s get you realigned!
