Pillars of Motherhood 4. The Social Pillar

Moms thrive in community. The social pillar encourages healthy relationships, friendships, and support systems that make motherhood lighter and more joyful. Energy healing can clear old patterns that block connection, allowing for deeper, healthier bonds

The Social Pillar: Thriving Together, Not Alone

Motherhood can be beautiful, but loneliness often shadows the journey. When we feel isolated, overwhelmed, or burnt-out, our Social Pillar takes the hit. Yet strong, nurturing connections aren’t just a nice-to-have, they’re essential.

1. Why Connection Matters for Moms

Research consistently shows that social support is vital for maternal well-being. One study found that peer support significantly reduces feelings of isolation, stress, and low mood while boosting confidence and emotional resilience. Loneliness and isolations is one of the biggest reasons people fall into depression and other mental health issues. It is so vital that we step outside ourselves and and make solid human connections.

Social isolation doesn’t just hurt your heart, it can impact your body too. Studies link long-term loneliness to increased health risks like cardiovascular issues and weakened immune function. For moms, connection isn't just emotional; it’s deeply physical and an absolute necessity. It is vital to your overall health to find your community. This is not something that you need to put off or wait for it to happen organically. Effort needs to be put into this pillar. Especially if you move around a lot.

2. Common Social Challenges for Moms

You’re not alone if you feel any of these:

• The days blend into one, with little adult conversation.

• Busy schedules and school runs leave no time for social time.

• Online groups feel judgmental or exhausting, not uplifting.

• You battle the urge to "do it all" alone, missing the support you need.

Studies show that 66% of parents feel lonely or burned out, and 79% say they would love more support or parent friendships. You’re not alone in wanting connection. Take the step. Put yourself out there. The right people are looking for you too.

3. Creative Ways to Rebuild Connection (Even without Extra Time)

If your routine is jam-packed, try these simple ideas to reconnect meaningfully. Remember you have to make these choices to make them a part of your life:

• Mini Breaks with Friends: Text check-ins at bedtime, video “quiet time” chats, or snail mail letters.

  • When my kids were little and beyond the napping years, I instituted the quiet time hour. I was so beneficial for all of us.

  • If your kids are school aged join the schools PTA or if you home school look for the home school connections in your area.

  • If they are older look for community classes, church activities, neighborhood events etc...

• Mom Dates: Meet a a local walking path for a walk, park playdates or fun adventure get togethers such as the local aquarium, dinosaur museum or jump house fun place.

• Community Moments: Join church groups, book clubs, or even local playgroups like MOMS Club for casual support and belonging.

  • Check-out Facebook, Meetup, NextDoor and other online avenues to seek out different groups meeting up in your area.

  • Joining a church is a great way to find your community.

  • Start a new hobby and seek out local groups that cater to the new hobby. For example a local hiking club, crafting circle or foodie group.

  • Volunteer work.

• Online Groups: Join supportive online groups focused on your parenting phase or interests—avoid comparison zones, seek uplifting spaces MotherlyHRCC.

• Date Nights: Work in date nights with your significant other. These need to be scheduled and nothing gets in the way of the schedule. Connecting with your significant other is so important for your social wellbeing, but also to keep a healthy relationship. I was just reading an article about continuing to court through your marriage. No matter how many years you have into your marriage keeping the romance alive it vital. It does take effort!

Every tiny social touchpoint adds up. Make sure these social interactions are positive and uplifting. If they drain you or are judgmental run, run away from them.

4. How Energy Healing Supports Social Connection

When social isolation lingers, it often leaves an energetic imprint; dulling our warmth or making vulnerability feel unsafe. It can also make you feel on edge and just not satisfied with life. Plus public interactions are being cut down tremendously with grocery deliveries, online ordering and other “convenient” offerings.

Energy healing can be a loving catalyst:

• Clear energetic blocks that keep you guarded or disconnected.

• Open your heart center to feel safe inviting others in.

• Restore balance in your aura—so you radiate openness and attract connection.

• Boost intuitive clarity around who and what relationships feed your soul, not drain you.

• Give you confidence to put yourself out there and find real living connections.

When your energy feels aligned, meaningful connection flows more easily.

5. Social Wellness in Different Seasons

Different stages of motherhood call for different social strategies:

New Moms- Find a local playgroup with other moms that are in your same stage of life. Consistent walks in strollers and a good chat makes a world of difference. It gives you something to look forward too.

Toddler and School Aged Moms-Just like new moms, find a playgroup that have kids the same age. If there isn’t one in your area start one. Go on local adventure playdates to the splash pad, pumpkin patches, story hour and other fun outings. So many fun ideas. Get your creative juices flowing!

Tweens and Teens-Join a book club, find someone in your neighborhood that would like to go on regular walks. Step outside your confront zone and befriend someone outside your age group. I have had some wonderful conversations with people that are in their retired stage of life. Befriend the parents of your kid’s friends. You can do it!

Empty Nesters- Join local community hobby groups, play some pickleball with neighbors, take classes, volunteer at a cause you feel super passionate about.

Connection looks different in each season—and honoring your own is empowering, not selfish. Self-care is so important and this needs to be in your self-care routine.

6. Restoring the Social Pillar: Gentle Action Steps

• Send one honest text to a mom you admire—just to say hi.

• Join one in-person or online community tailored to your season.

• Schedule one low-pressure “mom-moment”—a walk, an ice cream, a moment to connect.

• Observe how those interactions lift your energy, and nurture them.

Final Thoughts

Motherhood is sacred, and you're never meant to walk it alone. When your Social Pillar is nurtured, it replenishes your heart, strengthens your wellbeing, and models a vital life lesson for your children: we stand stronger together.

You're worthy of connection, belonging, and support, you're not just a mother; you're a beloved woman who belongs. Let’s build community that lifts us up, one heart-led connection at a time.